Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapy
Support for rebuilding yourself after a relationship that made you doubt your own reality
Available across New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, South Carolina, and Florida.
Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (NATC), trained in the recovery-focused framework developed by Dr. Ramani Durvasula.
You are not too sensitive, too much, or crazy. You were in something that was designed to make you feel that way.
If you are here, you may have spent a long time believing you were the problem. That is not an accident. It is one of the most damaging effects of narcissistic abuse: the slow erosion of your ability to trust your own perceptions until you no longer know what is real. You second-guess your memory. You apologize for things you did not do. You have gotten so used to managing someone else's moods that you have lost track of your own needs entirely.
Narcissistic abuse is confusing precisely because it rarely looks like abuse from the outside, and often did not feel like it at the start. There were good moments, maybe wonderful ones, woven in with the criticism, the blame-shifting, the way your reality kept getting rewritten. That mix is what makes it so hard to leave and so hard to explain, even to people who love you. You may still wonder whether it was "bad enough" to count. I want to gently say: what you experienced was real, and its effects are real.
This kind of relationship, whether it was a partner, a parent, or someone else close to you, leaves a particular kind of damage. The good news is that the damage can heal with the right support.
What you might be experiencing
Chronically doubting your own memory, judgment, or perceptions
Anxiety, hypervigilance, and walking on eggshells, even now
A harsh inner critic that sounds a lot like them
Feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions
Guilt or confusion about whether it was "really that bad"
Loss of confidence and a sense of who you used to be
Difficulty trusting yourself and other people
Exhaustion, numbness, or a lingering sense of grief
Why people seek narcissistic abuse recovery
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Recovering from a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship
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Rebuilding self-trust after gaslighting
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Anxiety, hypervigilance, and trauma responses
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Guilt, self-blame, and difficulty accepting what happened
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A shattered sense of confidence and identity
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Patterns from a narcissistic parent showing up in adult life
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Difficulty trusting themselves or others
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Wanting to understand what happened so it does not repeat
You might benefit from therapy if…
You still doubt your own reality. When someone has spent months or years rewriting what is true, that doubt does not vanish when the relationship ends. I help you rebuild trust in your own perceptions, so you can stand on solid ground again.
The relationship is over but the effects are not. Leaving is not the same as healing. If you are out and still anxious, still self-blaming, still hearing their voice in your head, therapy helps you actually recover, not just escape.
You do not recognize yourself anymore. Narcissistic abuse can bury the person you were. I help you find your way back to yourself, and to a version of you that is even steadier than before.
How I help
I understand how disorienting this kind of recovery is, and I want to name something clearly from the start: I believe you. You will not have to convince me that what you experienced counts, or minimize it to make it easier to hear. That validation matters, because so much of this abuse worked by making you distrust yourself. Being believed is often where healing begins.
I am a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician, trained specifically in the fallout of narcissistic and antagonistic relationships through the framework Dr. Ramani Durvasula developed. That means I am not learning about these dynamics for the first time in your session. I understand trauma bonding, the relationship cycle, the way these patterns install self-doubt, and what it actually takes to recover from them. You can bring me the parts that feel too confusing or too shameful to explain, and I will already understand the shape of what you are describing.
A central part of our work is rebuilding trust in your own reality. Through our conversations, you begin to recognize the patterns for what they were, which loosens the grip of the self-doubt and the "maybe it was me" that abuse installs. Understanding gaslighting for what it is helps you stop turning it on yourself.
I use approaches that address both the thinking patterns and the deeper wounds. Cognitive Behavioral work helps you challenge the harsh, internalized voice and manage the anxiety and hypervigilance you may still carry. We work at a pace that respects how much your nervous system has been through, with no pressure to move faster than feels safe.
We also focus on rebuilding you: your confidence, your boundaries, your sense of what you want and need. Over time, you reconnect with parts of yourself that were buried and develop the discernment to recognize these dynamics early, so you can protect your peace going forward.
Healing from this is absolutely possible. Many people come out the other side not only recovered but genuinely stronger, clearer, and more themselves than before.
All sessions are online, so you can do this work from wherever you feel safe and in control of your space.
What to expect after you reach out
You book your free 15-minute consultation.
Choose a time that fits your life, or send us a note and we will happily find one together. This part is easy, and we make it that way on purpose.
We connect.
This is a warm, unhurried conversation about what has been weighing on you and how we might help. There is nothing to prepare and nothing you need to have figured out first. You can simply show up as you are.
You decide what feels right.
If we are a good fit, we will get you settled and scheduled. If not, we’ll connect you with someone in our network!
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About Brianna Paruolo, LMHC
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I provide virtual therapy for women in New York, New Jersey, South Carolina, Massachusetts and Florida.
CLINICAL EXPERTISE & CREDENTIALS
As founder and Clinical Director of On Par Therapy NYC, I bring elite training and specialized certification to your therapeutic journey:
Advanced Education
Master's Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, St. John's University
Bachelor's Degree in Psychology, St. John's University
President of Chi Sigma Iota Counseling Academic and Professional Honor Society
Specialized Certifications
Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (NATC)
SBIRT Certified
Psychological First Aid (PFA) Certified
Clinical Experience
Former Primary Therapist at one of the nation's leading eating disorder residential treatment centers
Clinical training in integrative psychotherapy, incorporating innovative approaches including play therapy, biofeedback, and neurofeedback
Featured mental health expert in major media publications and news outlets
On Par Therapy exists because I needed it myself. Before becoming a therapist, I managed social media strategy for health and wellness brands, then transitioned to a People & Culture role at a unicorn startup while pursuing my master's degree.
I understand perfectionism, burnout, and self-doubt not just clinically, but personally. This unique perspective has led major news outlets and publications to tap me as a mental health specialist, providing insights on everything from workplace stress and impostor syndrome to dating dynamics and narcissism.
My practice focuses on the challenges high-achieving women face most: the anxiety that never fully quiets, the perfectionism that both drives and exhausts you, disruptive life transitions, and relationship patterns that feel frustratingly familiar. I integrate CBT, DBT, mindfulness, and relational therapy with a real-world understanding of what it takes to excel without self-destructing.
Therapy with me feels grounded and intelligent, and I like speaking with someone who genuinely gets it because I've sat on both sides of the conversation.
Book your FREE 15-minute consultation today.
Reach out through my contact form
Meet with me for support that starts with believing you.
Begin rebuilding trust in yourself and your reality.
I am licensed to work in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, Florida, and South Carolina.
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